things that bother me

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i really dont like how some people think they can boss around on the internet all they want
like seriously ,, 
i've got this one conversation going somewhere in the youtube comments 
which i recently decided not to keep up anymore because its really not worth it?
like there's this one person (currently) everyone started turning against at
who bashes at literally anyone who doesn't support their opinion
and i mean its of course okay to have an own opinion about something but please dont get overprotective about it,,,
please just accept that other people also have an opinion and that there is always another side to the story (which that certain person doesnt seem to get/understand)

what's even worse is that exactly those people are then too shy/quiet to personally talk with you about their opinion
and i've had a similar situation to that one back in grade 8
there was this really shy guy who had his handful of friends and you could never speak to him 
he just wouldnt answer? no matter how much you tried to interact with him he would simply just stand there and stare at the ground
but as soon as you're back home you'd see like 20 new messages from him telling you how ugly and dumb you are
literally provoking you

and then the next day you'd ask him what the fuck he was doing and he would just
not say a single word to you ? ??
and i'm really starting to feel like many of these "whiteknights" are basically just like him
and i really do not like that

i mean yeah "freedom of speech" and "shut up its the internet" 
but like,, in my opinion stuff like that is just not fair
you should at least be able to openly speak about your opinion on the internet and in reallife
and not only use the internet and your monitor as your protective shield

another thing that bothers me to no end is that some people 
think that "cisphobia" is some kind of trend that is apparently okay to follow
but like,, it doesnt really matter whatever gender/sexuality you consider yourself as
even if you're a cis (which would make no sense though)

cisphobia is not okay. even if you've had bad experiences with many cis-people.
it is just as horrible as transphobia and anything related to that, period

i understand that most transgender/sexual people dislike cisgender/sexual people because it's mostly them who call themselves as "homo- and transphobic"
but there are enough cis people (including me) who would like to stay out of any phobic experiences and who accept people just the way they are
like,, you can identify as a traffic light and i would literally not care
it's the fact that such a big group of people is being dragged into some kind of stereotype-drawer even though some of them have never done anything that can be considered as bad
some people tend to think that cis people are apparently "not able to know how misgendering feels like"
which is kind of true on some parts? especially if you have never experienced any types of thoughts that let you think you don't feel like your body belongs to you/that the body you live in isn't the right one
but trust me
there are actually some people who don't need experiences to be able to know how typical problems of trans-people feel like
and it sickens me that other people apparently seem to know these types of people better than they do themselves
not everyone's the same, please don't always stick to stereotypes

and please know that if you consider yourself as cisphobic, you're not one single bit better than any homo-/transphobic person out there ever
especially when it comes to degrading anyone personally, phobias are  a l w a y s  terrible

sorry for ranting but this needed to be said 
and i really hope noone feels attacked because i'm speaking to the general public
this is not addressed to any specific person 

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so I somehow ended up here, I don't really know how lmao
but I'd like to throw myself into this mess of comments as well. btw I'm not a great person and this is just my opinion yo. i may be naive and an optimist, but... yeah. I probs won't respond to anyone because my fingers hurt and I'm a lazy dickbag.
(also, it's nearly impossible to have a civil discussion in the youtube comment sections, since 90% are just bored 12 year olds)

I don't hate cis/heteros, I honestly doubt that really anyone of the lgbtq+ community does actually. and if there are some, it's a very very small percentage. 
I love my parents, they've stuck with me while I was dealing with a lot of shit, both of them are cis and hetero. My best friend is cis and hetero too and she's literally the sweetest human being I know. Every single lgbtq+ person is bound to know someone that's cis/hetero and also chill. because that's just the majority of people. it's the same with individuals of different ethnicities/religions. however, it's more difficult the other way around, since we're not as 'common'. it is way easier to hate something that you don't actually know. I can assure you that most racists/homophobes/transphobes have never met or even talked with a subject of their hate.
of course not all lgbtq+ individuals are good people. heck, I've seen racist gay people, and they're just as bad as hetero racists.
and not all cis/hetero/white people are bad. but like- I don't know how to explain it, but that's kind of obvious? it's impossible by the laws of chance not to know a cis/het peep that's a good person. however, it is very likely that some have never met or talked to lgbtq+ individuals. because we are a minority. 
yes I do believe there is prejudice against cis/hets, but cis or heterophobia? I can't imagine that that exists. just because the laws of chance make it literally impossible you've never met a decent cis/het person.

let me give an example:
I grew up with living with dogs and loving them. everyone around me had dogs and I witnessed how sweet and gentle and goofy they can be. one day a dog bit me in the face. but that experience didn't affect how i see dogs one bit. because I knew tons of dogs that weren't agressive.
however, if someone grew up in an environment where there are no dogs whatsoever and then someday a dog bit them, I'm sure they'd be terrified of dogs after that experience. and even if they just heard about a dog biting someone, I bet they'd be causious or hateful towards dogs from that point on.
just because one cis/het person made a transphobic and homophobic remark towards me, doesn't mean I'll start hating all cishets. Because I know that that was only ONE individual that does not represent the entire group. because I've made tons of experiences that tell me this was an exception. but for some reason a lot of people don't even NEED a reason to hate. they just do because they don't understand it and don't feel comfortable with it. and in many cases they've also been raised with it.

(I'm not going to comment on racism or reverse racism, since this isn't the topic of the journal and I, as well as OP live in europe. racism here is not as much based on your skin color, but on where you're from. so there are a lot of white people that are racist against other white people, I'm 100% serious. even though op is apparently from germany, I assume most people that commented down below about racism are from america.)

BUT. I don't believe just because you're cis automatically means you're transphobic. it's one of the dumbest things I've heard. sure, you aren't really able to fully understand, but that's normal?? I don't understand how you can't love boobs!! they're great????? does that mean I hate everyone that doesn't like boobs? NO. it'd be like hating everyone that dislikes your favourite color or something, just dumb.

(I'd like to point out however, that the internet is not real life. you see people hating on eachother daily. but like i said in the beginning, the majority of them are KIDS. kids that are looking for trouble or looking for a place to belong. the lgbtq+ community on the internet does not represent it in real life. not at all. and I do think that some kids think it's 'cool' to write how much cishets suck and that no one understands them. but the reality is, they don't understand that it isn't cool at all. it brings a terrible name to the lgbtq+ community and destroys so much people have built up and worked for their entire life. it just cheapens everything.
I'm sure they mean no actual harm, after all, they're just fucking kids. but it IS harmful. I've seen people attack others that think there's only male and female, instead of having a discussion. and those individuals went on attacking actual non binary/trans*/genderqueer people that are just trying to exist in peace without doing anything. same goes for mental illnesses. these aren't 'fun' or 'cool' or 'in' things to go through. yes they've made me who I am today, and I wouldn't change a thing, but sometimes I wish I hadn't wasted my entire teenage years hating myself, not knowing who I am and being terrified of the future because I was convinced I didn't have one.
the internet can be a really great and fun place, but sometimes it's just utterly toxic.)  

despite of your nationality, religious beliefs, ethnicity, sex, gender identity, sexuality, ya'll just gotta chill and stop taking yourself and everything so seriously. go out and eat an ice cream or cake or something instead of hating on a certain group of people. it's more satisfying, fullfilling and also leaves a good taste in your mouth instead of the cold bitterness. it's fine that everyone has different opinions and as long as they're not harming anyone or the environment and are respectful, just live and let live Peace 
have a nice day and eat your veggies  Chibi by imadering